I have been connected , as much & as & when I can , with community bodies & serving on resident associations . Last year I was President of the resident association at apartment complex I stay -- which has more than 800 apartments . As always , in such services , there are some learning , reinforcements of points we learnt earlier , such as :
# Person who opts to be on the association body to serve community is there because of his/her own choice -- there is no reason or scope to complain , either for the load or the abusive ingratitude of others
# There will always be many armchair consultants who have an opinion on everything ( importantly including of themselves ) but are never available when it comes to work
# Most think that paying their maintenance dues gets them ownership right on everything, including members of working staff & volunteer members of association committee . There are a few with high negativity , political agenda , who will always be waiting to grind their axe & hurl abuses .
# However for all such negative elements , armchair consultants , there will always be those dedicated ones who will stand up & volunteer to take community work
However this posting is more to share with you interesting thought exchange which happened to happen in the backdrop of above . Incident below is not uncommon in society working .
Residents association ( despite rules / regulations & bye-laws being in place ) derive their power primarily from resident support , if some choose to misbehave or get into indiscipline , at times there is very little associations can do since they neither have enforcement or judiciary / regulatory powers . Hence there will always be some cases of residents who would continue to flout rules .
It's not uncommon for some ( irate ) residents to ask us " if so & so does not follow this rule why should I be disciplined , can I also flout it ? The answer to this tricky question is simple :
" This is what YOU need to decide . You need to decide whether you'd follow rules like majority does , despite some errants or whether you'd follow misbehavour . Finally whether to act as a responsible citizen or not is your decision ---- it depends on your conscience , your values /background , your life priorities & your sense of what is right / wrong
Secondly we ask him as to why does he / she feel promptrd to follow only ( what he / she knows as ) wrong examplkes , why not be motivated to follow good examples ... examples of those residents to volunteer to work for the association sacrificing their own time ?
Finally , not many people are consciously aware , but is interesting to note ..... why should ' how you behave ' be decided by some one else ( I do this because so & so did this ) How should you behave should be decided by you , based on your considerations , independent of some one else's context ... why do you let go of your right to think independently "
Personal Coaching , which is what I do professionally , is all about creating such ' AWARENESS ' .
Think about it .... let me know . Have a GREAT week ahead !
# Person who opts to be on the association body to serve community is there because of his/her own choice -- there is no reason or scope to complain , either for the load or the abusive ingratitude of others
# There will always be many armchair consultants who have an opinion on everything ( importantly including of themselves ) but are never available when it comes to work
# Most think that paying their maintenance dues gets them ownership right on everything, including members of working staff & volunteer members of association committee . There are a few with high negativity , political agenda , who will always be waiting to grind their axe & hurl abuses .
# However for all such negative elements , armchair consultants , there will always be those dedicated ones who will stand up & volunteer to take community work
However this posting is more to share with you interesting thought exchange which happened to happen in the backdrop of above . Incident below is not uncommon in society working .
Residents association ( despite rules / regulations & bye-laws being in place ) derive their power primarily from resident support , if some choose to misbehave or get into indiscipline , at times there is very little associations can do since they neither have enforcement or judiciary / regulatory powers . Hence there will always be some cases of residents who would continue to flout rules .
It's not uncommon for some ( irate ) residents to ask us " if so & so does not follow this rule why should I be disciplined , can I also flout it ? The answer to this tricky question is simple :
" This is what YOU need to decide . You need to decide whether you'd follow rules like majority does , despite some errants or whether you'd follow misbehavour . Finally whether to act as a responsible citizen or not is your decision ---- it depends on your conscience , your values /background , your life priorities & your sense of what is right / wrong
Secondly we ask him as to why does he / she feel promptrd to follow only ( what he / she knows as ) wrong examplkes , why not be motivated to follow good examples ... examples of those residents to volunteer to work for the association sacrificing their own time ?
Finally , not many people are consciously aware , but is interesting to note ..... why should ' how you behave ' be decided by some one else ( I do this because so & so did this ) How should you behave should be decided by you , based on your considerations , independent of some one else's context ... why do you let go of your right to think independently "
Personal Coaching , which is what I do professionally , is all about creating such ' AWARENESS ' .
Think about it .... let me know . Have a GREAT week ahead !
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